Monday, November 7, 2011
Family Meeting Two (Day 8)
MOM: Okay, let’s start with our next item: Positive Family Achievements. Five minutes.
LIZA: Well, we behaved at the football game last night.
KEN: Yeah, no one hit one another.
JAY: And Halloween went well.
LIZA: Yeah, but we were all split up with our friends.
JAY: That’s what I mean, Halloween went well!
JOEY: I got a lot of candy.
LIZA: Someone took some of my candy.
KEN: Don’t look at me!
LIZA: I didn’t look at you. I’m just saying…
KEN: You’re the timekeeper, not the equalizer.
JOEY: Okay, then TIME!
MOM: So we did well with those events. Let’s move onto our ground rules section.
JAY: I think we should first put down “no hitting” .
LIZA: (Who has now gotten a marker and started writing on the large paper “hands to self“). I agree.
DAD: Everyone agree?
JOEY: What about the consequences?
KEN: I think anyone who hits or wrestles should have to clean my half of the room.
LIZA: (Dancing around the kitchen) No, my room! They have to clean MY room!
JAY: How about an hour time out?
DAD: An hour?
JAY: Yes, because physical stuff should have the biggest consequence.
MOM: (Looking at Joey, then back at Jay) Well, maybe the time out should be related to age.
JAY: Okay, time out related to age. Agree?
DAD: You’re not the equalizer this week.
KEN: What about saying “Shut up”? We should have something for that.
MOM: Well, let’s try to use our positive verbal language.
JOEY: What if we say, “Shush up”?
LIZA: Or “Shoosh up”?
JAY: How about if we say “Please be quiet”? That’s positive language right?
DAD: Yes, right.
KEN: But we didn’t discuss the consequence!
LIZA: We should write apology notes.
JAY: Can we have a warning first?
LIZA: Yeah, a warning and then an apology note to the person you used the bad language to.
MOM: Next section.
MOM: Okay, well, last week, Jay had mentioned getting an allowance. So I thought maybe we could start back up the “star charts” to help us practice our positive language, and do chores, and earn allowance money. Then, I left some sections for you to put down one of your own goals. Is this something that you’d like to do?
KEN: Our own goals?
MOM: Yes. Do you want to do this?
JAY: Are you and Dad going to do one, too?
DAD: Yes, let’s do them, too.
LIZA: I want to do it.
DAD: Who wants to do the “star charts”?
MOM: Okay, so you can have a few minutes to fill in your own goals.
LIZA: I’m filling in “try to do things on time”.
JAY: I’m filling in to write a half page on my story.
JOEY: I’m filling in to not eat too much candy.
MOM: I’m filling in to practice my swimming.
KEN: I’m filling in to use a tablespoon of butter on bagels.
KEN: Yeah, a tablespoon of butter is best. (Laughing).
DAD: Well, I’m filling in not to sneak people’s candy.
We planned to meet back up for our family activity later in the day.